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No, I don’t mean “open-minded” in the you-know-what way. At least, I don’t any more…
I’m currently talking to someone who is my dream guy and a man in which most women would flock to like a Coach bag sale. In fact dude has told me not-so-subtly (he was bordering on cocky) that he has no problem meeting women. It made your girl feel good to see he approached me on a dating site, a virtual sea of potential wives, boos, and one-nighters. Yes, he is the total package: looks, height, personality, everything else on “the list”…check, check, check and check.
But because I am now more open-minded and less of a desperado, I haven’t exactly stopped communicating with other men. On paper, I am still single, yes?
So my nephew and I are watching Elmo on YouTube the other day when I felt a paradigm shift: I am ready to receive love. I have no reason to not get serious with anyone. No, I won’t rush, and I am still SAH. Unlike the past I don’t feel lonely and “need” a relationship. I don’t like I need to hurry things up, because I’m almost 40. I am simply ready to expand my options.
And I don’t mean I’m ready for love from just any man. First of all, he must be single: once again somebody’s husband is messaging me on said dating site. This particular person carefully crafted a letter explaining how painfully ready he is, for a change. I’m guessing a divorce is not change enough for him! Sure, it could be some BS, and yes I took a stand where I don’t entertain the married, but still the fact remains that while some woman is a) watching the Olympics, b) chatting it up with her “friend girls” about the Olympics (Gabby Douglas’ hair no less) or c) where else but on FB typing about the
Olympics, her hubby is out here on a dating site. He isn’t the only one.
By being open-minded I mean I have taken the advice of a good friend and writing client, who suggested I write down a list of all that I want in a relationship, and all what I am ready to receive. I hesitate, because I felt that I wasn’t ready. Now I am, but sorry I am not ready to disclose the list.
The take-away. Allowing myself to be open to new things (like new hobbies, new foods,etc.) have yielded some interesting results. For the most part, it made me happier as I have found something new to love. Why not approach the dating scene the same way? And it’s so okay if things don’t go anywhere with Mr. Perfect; I don’t want to settle anymore.
Are you ready for love?